Wife interrogates the kids

During our last visit, I was taking the girls to school when one of my daughters revealed that my wife has been coercing them to give up information about our discussions. Two separate incidents were disclosed. I will be perfectly clear and say right up front that I do not and will not try to extract information about my wife from the kids. That isn't okay.

In the first incident, my wife took away the cell phone I provide to my daughters and wouldn't give it back until my eldest daughter told her what we had spoken about on our last visit. That conversation was my eldest talking about having choices once she turned ten. My wife wasn't going to allow my daughter to get by without fully-disclosing the details of that conversation. My daughter said her mother hounded her to give up all the information. She said she felt like she had no choice because her mother wouldn't leave her alone and refused to give back the cell phone that she has as a direct link to me.

In the course of our conversation that day, my daughter told me she wanted to live with me. I told her that it wasn't possible right now because the judge had already made a custody determination. I didn't encourage her to feel that way. I just told her that I would be thrilled to have her but that it wasn't time for that discussion. She would have to wait for a few years. I told my daughter that *if* she still wanted to live with me in a few years, when she was about ten or so that the judge would be willing to consider her wishes. That is it. Naturally, my wife told my daughter that it wasn't true. We'll see about that when the time comes.

The real award-winning tactic though has to be her telling the girls they had to tell her everything we talked about "or Daddy will get in trouble". Rich, huh? My eldest said she felt like she had to tell my wife everything in order to protect me. Ironic that my wife says she is so concerned for my well-being and not wanting me to get into trouble. This coming from the same person who attacked me and tried to strip away my rights. How dysfunctional can she get? I'm afraid to find out what happens next. Even my youngest daughter, who is five, was interrogated. This madness has to stop. It isn't fair to subject the children to this sort of coercion and intimidation. That is the sort of thing my wife used to reserve only for me. Now that I am not in the house they appear to be fair game. How could my wife behave this way?